Ever occurred to you that when we look for good things in situations and people, good things will appear and likewise when we want to see negative things.. It’s even more there for you to grab!
Unwise and strange it may seem, but in our perception of people we often choose to see ONLY the ugly thorns but NOT the sweet roses.
At a gathering I once attended, a poor lass who probably took days to build up enough courage to wear something different she thought would make her look more attractive was instead greeted with this devastating comment-
“Aiyo! Please lah! Legs like elephant’s also want to wear mini-skirt ah?”
Niamahfoolat! That poor girl has all the other good assets for her close friend with a run-away mulut to comment but yet she chose to embarrass her instead! (Why she so like dat one?)
Another crude remark I once overheard but must admit that it was so hilarious I had to join in the laughter was –
“OMG! So old or-ledi ..still want to wear low-neckline dress revealing cleavage for people to see your nen nen ar!” teased a member of the ‘chiak pa bo su choe’ auntie club.
Another added, “Not nen nen susu anymore la… already yogurt storage barrels liao!” LOLs!
Some sipek jialat people can really spend their whole life looking for faults in others…and they proudly tell you, “I’m only telling the truth what!”
These are people I call ‘HAPPINESS PARASITES’ who go around robbing others of their happiness because somehow ..they can only be happy when others are not! They probably figure that when everyone else is a loser, then they must be the winner even though they haven’t even tried!
When encountering such cilaka CBai mulut people the best thing you can do for yourself is-
1) Not to be reactive.You actually have a choice over your emotions. You can choose to feel hurt OR choose NOT to let others spoil and rule your day! The happiness of your day should be entirely in your own hands and NOT theirs (mouths included)
2) Do not be like them looking for faults of others or your own. Instead, start looking for the good positive things in situations or people.
Most importantly, cultivate a good habit of GIVING COMPLIMENTS to others generously to make their day so that in turn, they’ll make yours!
..and I'm saying," YOU OUGHT TO BE SUCH A KIND SWEET SOUL for giving time to read this post!"